As an introvert, I enjoy my own company and doing activities in solitude.
I’m a little quiet and reserved, but I love listening and taking in everything around me. Often I feel I, along with many other introverts, can be misunderstood. That said, I thought I would share with you a little insight into my mind, the mind of an introvert.
Because introverts generally enjoy their own company, we often have a small number of close friends. Therefore our friendship circles are small and tight-knit. It’s not that we don’t like people; we struggle in big groups and can find it very draining. Social situations also can make me somewhat anxious, especially if they involve people I don’t know well. I struggle with small talk and hate being the centre of attention—all typical attributes of an introvert.
Sometimes socialising can be quite draining
As a result, we introverts often need more space and time to recharge after socialising. It’s an actual balancing act getting out enough to not turn into a hermit; versus taking enough time to renew and refill my cup.
Consequently, I find people have considered me somewhat shy and/or anti-social at times. I’m not really, though. I love to sit back and listen, take in everything around me and contemplate it. It’s how I enjoy socialising; Being able to take it all in first and then come back with a thought or opinion as I’m ready. Although, I have found myself getting left behind in conversations at times because I contemplate too long. But that’s ok generally I get what I need from the interaction. I also find I can burn out fairly easy when socialising even online so I need to make sure I take time out to recharge. This I’m sure has made people feel I’m not so keen on hanging out, but I am I love to get out amongst it even if I’m a little reserved.
The hardest part about being an introvert is maintaining friendships.
It has always been a sticking point for me. My partner and I have mutual friends we spend time with together; aside from that, I don’t really have friends of my own. For the most part, it hasn’t bothered me. Although from time to time, I miss having someone to confide in.
Because of this, I have taken a bit of time to think it over and find what I can do to help myself. One thing that came to mind is that I have a terrible tendency to not keep in touch with people. I’ve let many friendships or connections slip by through lack of communication. I have always been relatively solitary and don’t talk or socialise as much as others might.
But, now that I see what I am doing, I have started to make a conscious effort to build and maintain future friendships. I am making a conscious effort when it comes to balancing my time. Making sure I make an effort to be present with my friends whether in person or via message, while also keeping myself in check. Making sure my cup is full so I can be fully there for both myself, my friends and my family. If I feel I need a little time to recharge I like to take some time alone and diffuse essential oils. I do this while either meditating, listening to podcasts, reading or knitting. All of these allow me to settle my nerves and regroup.
My favourite oils to diffuse at the moment are Eco Modern Essentials either Nurture or Calm & Destress they are both fabulous blends that really help your mind settle.
The Eco Modern Essentials links are affiliate products, these are products I use daily and love. I only recommend products that I truly believe in so you can be assured they are worth it.
I would love to know your thoughts on all of this. Can you relate? Maybe you have some tips for me or other introverts? If you do, please do leave a comment and let us know your hints and tricks
Sarah xx
